17 Things I Learned in 2017
A different city every 48 hours. Two very overweight suitcases. 47-ish states. A million and one selfies. One Savvy year.
I became Miss America almost a year ago to this day. Once that iconic crown is placed on your head, you immediately become 100 years of history. In fact, a former Miss America once told me, “you don’t become Miss America, Miss America becomes you.”
When I look back at my year as Miss America a lot of it is still a blur, so praises for Instagram, but what stands out the most are the overarching life lessons I have learned. Being Miss America is more than a full time job, it is a 24/8 job, and takes over all aspects of your life. I visit Children’s Hospitals, tour army bases overseas, present at award shows, speak at galas, hang out with kids, walk red carpets, and live in hotels. This year I have been challenged, tested, encouraged, and molded more than I could have ever imagined, and I am walking away with more life lessons than I can count. As an art major and list-maker, and in an effort to make this trendy and creative, here are 17 things I learned being your Miss America 2017.
1. Coffee naps are essential: You drink a cup of coffee, fall asleep during the 20 minutes it takes the caffeine to kick in, and Boom! Wake up super happy and loving the coffee nap life.
2. Why do you get up in the morning? Once you figure out the “why,” you can endure any “how”, making your goals and dreams much easier to achieve.
3. Only start watching netflix if it is before 10 pm…you will end up watching all 9 seasons of The Office five times over. I had to learn this one the hard way.
4. Talk about your heartaches. The greatest conversations and the best friendships I have start with transparency. Being able to look at your struggles outside of your brain helps to reduce the size of their hold on your heart, and creates deeper fellowship with the people around you.
5. At Starbucks, It is more fun to mumble your name when they ask for it.
6. Pin Rolling Meditation is the new Yoga. For me, pin rolling my hair has turned into a very therapeutic time in the morning. Fifteen minutes of repetitive motions that give you fifteen minutes in the morning to reflect, and set your intentions out for the day. I don’t usually have time for the hour long yoga meditation class to get my mind right, but a curling iron and hairspray are a close second.
7. Journal. Don’t let Instagram become your only life recorder. Yes, take as many selfies as you can and live your best life, but, don’t be consumed with finding the “good light”. If you are too busy finding a great photo ‘for the grid’, you’ll miss some of the most picture perfect moments. Cheesy, but I do pageants. I love cheesy.
8. Pro Tip: Airplanes are freezing 9 times out of 10. Bring extra socks.
9. Everyone has their own definition of success. I learned this from seeing how every single person has a different opinion of who Miss America should be. What she should look like, what she should wear, what she should talk about and when she should keep quiet. Every person has a hot take on how we should gage her success. The lesson in this is simply — define your own truth. Decide what you want your story to be and unapologetically live it out.
10. This is one I am still learning: You will not make everyone happy, and that is okay. It is more than okay, it is normal. One personal trait that has caused me the most anxiety is the desire to please people and be liked. The false idea that happiness comes when everyone around you is happy, not only cripples joy, it makes it impossible to be content. I am constantly learning that it is not my responsibility to change the emotions of the people around me, but rather my responsibility to make decisions that lead towards healthy solutions, even if at first they seem daunting.
11. Ask questions. Learn lots. You’re not suppose to know everything. Find every chance to learn about life outside your own.
12. When working toward a goal, train so hard that when it comes time for your performance, speech, or interview, all you have to do is press “play.”
13. Listen to other peoples’ stories, life perspectives, and ideas. There is so much life that goes on that we don’t know about. This is something being an art major taught me. Learning to have an open mind and an open heart leads to a more colorful life.
14. Don’t let your make-up wear you. I remember after wearing false eyelashes every day for a few months, I did not like the way I looked without them. It is so important to remind ourselves of our definition of the word “beautiful”. Eyelash glue and highlighter, even though they make us feel like we can conquer the world, are not what our beauty is contingent upon.
15. Always wear a shower cap when getting a spray tan. I learned this the morning of the Billboard Awards when I woke up with pink hair the morning after a spray tan…. praises for clip in extensions that hide imperfections.
16. You cannot be grateful and anxious at the same time.
17. “Never apologize for burning too bright, or collapsing into yourself at night. This is how galaxies are made.” This was the best year of my life. This was the hardest year of my life. Through trails and struggles, I know without a shadow of a doubt I have become much more of the Savvy I was designed to be.
So much love,
Savvy Shields – Miss America 2017, @savvyjanine